How to Reach Across the Divide of Difference

Balms for hurt hearts

When I was in my 20's I did something stupid and dangerous.

I used to go to very straight bars and seek out white hetero men who looked like they hated me. As a twinky lil queer - that was a dangerous thing to do - many of them saw me as a threat to their dating pool options (i.e. I'd steal their chances of connecting with women)

I went there to have conversations. I wanted to know how they could hate people they never met and wanted to see what would happen if they met someone like me.

Not everyone wanted to talk. But for those who did, we created magic together. We found how similar we could still be, how safe we could be for each other. By the end, almost every time, there would be some sentiment of "hey, you may be queer, but you're alright."

I don't know if it changed voting habits, or gave them more space to be who they are or helped them make any lasting changes, but I DO KNOW that they felt more at ease around me. One guy even let me wingman for him and it at least worked out that night!

I felt more at ease around them too. I learned that most hatred is pretty unconscious, disjointed, and not at all logical - it's the energy of feeling alone and separate.

Get closer. Come together. Reach across to Difference and find out how similar we can all be.

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• Getting closer with Family

• Richer Intimacy with partners

• More ease in life due to less Masking and Faking it

• Increased Leadership Qualities

• Smoother business transactions, Better Negotiating skills

• Get more of what you want from life!