Divine Money Tricksters

Sometimes a mistake or miscommunication can wormhole you to wondrous clarity, love, and MONEY!

Tricksters offer fast-tracks to Transformation

I’m going to share a deeply vulnerable, raw, relational story - and then connect it to money. I’m choosing this style to honor the trickster magic available to all of us when we turn things on their heads. If you only want the Money stuff today, scroll down to the bottom where it says “Let’s Get Right to the Money”

The Divine Joke

I recently experienced the most divine joke. I made a huge mistake that led to wondrous clarity. It happened during the few days of the year when the Human Design gate 26 was in the sun sign and the most powerful. Gate 26 is the gate of the divine trickster energy.

I’ll do you a favor and NOT go into depth about how many trickster tales I love or have all over my home, but I will tell you that gate 26 is part of my Incarnation Cross - it’s part of my gift to the world and myself. Trickster Magic is one of the ingredients I offer my clients in Money Coaching sessions because trickster magic is like a wormhole: it can get us where we need to go faster than anything, or it could lead us so far off if used without skill. Good thing I’m a skilled wormhole navigator eh?

Wee! Let’s find out where I warped to this time:

The golden gift I received this week was in a very close and important relationship.

I misread something. It hurt me. I brought it up in vulnerability with confusion, curiosity, and knowing I could be wrong. I was met with defensiveness and criticism. Then I did something unexpected - I didn’t correct them (I’m usually so hurt by being misunderstood that I try to explain myself and end up making things more confusing to people who don’t want to hear me anyway. I have a Gemini Chiron and I’m neurodivergent AF - don’t get me started).

They lavished me in their assumptions of me, turned their critical eye to my existence, and managed to name my issues without asking any questions. I let them go on and on and on about it. I saw myself through their eyes.

It allowed me to really listen to what they were saying behind their words. I heard: “Your vulnerability scares and hurts me. Others have weaponized my empathy. I don’t know how to feel safe with others’ vulnerability and I’m used to managing my own with criticism to be ok. I need to protect myself from vulnerability.”

Wow.

Author’s note: Because I’m not currently on speaking terms with this person, I can’t confirm that I heard them correctly. I also know that sometimes people are incapable of recognizing any truth about them that they haven’t already seen within themselves. I don’t know what’s going on there. So, in reality, these are just guesses for now based on what I was hearing through the lens of my imperfect heart. I will say that I was listening with compassion and I hope you hold compassion for them too. Maybe you’ve felt like that too?

But my pain is about me - not them. I took some time to do some Identity Alchemy work. What’s the deep, dark nasty thing I secretly wanted from this relationship that I couldn’t see before? Why was I so close with someone who consistently offered criticism when I needed care?

Here’s the trickster magic. There’s definitely a trick to getting to this outcome, but please forgive me for showing the montage & ending without the “how - to” part (we can save that for a money coaching session or a speaking event later).

I realized that I loved being criticized. It was very familiar to me. One of the people who raised me, whom I loved, taught me everything I know about seasons, cycles, spirituality, how the world works - and - she was deeply critical of me. I could never walk the right speed or say the right thing or sing well enough etc. etc. She was using her criticism to guide me to her ideal outcome for me. I learned that what I wanted for myself or what was natural for me wasn’t as important as what she wanted for me. For what it’s worth, she did teach me some very different ways to exist in the world, but I know it could’ve been more effective and efficient if she had been more loving & listening instead of critical.

Oddly, I truly didn’t know that she actually loved me until just before she died because of how she treated me and everyone else she was close to. Some of her own children didn’t show up to her funeral. It took her over 70 years to finally share her beautiful, vulnerable heart. When I saw it, I wept in awe and grief in equal measure. To this day, she remains one of my favorite people to have ever existed. She would be really proud of me for healing from the wound she gave me. I can feel her pride and love overwhelm me now as I write it all out. (cue interlude of elevator music while I grab a tissue)

Ok. Continuing on.

Criticizing people can definitely manage behavior. It cannot be loving because it requires someone to BE a different person for another’s safety or comfort.

So what did I love about it other than the familiarity? Maybe it was that “gold star” feeling for getting it “right” sometimes after trying so hard to be good. Maybe it’s because I believed I was worth punishing for just existing or not walking the right speed. Ultimately, it was because I believed that I could never be good enough or live correctly enough without someone else correcting me through their destructive criticism.

Enough. There it is. Damn.

At this point I’m feeling relief in the truth, satiated in my curiosity, and, well, grievy as hell. I can now grieve what I’m letting go - the need for someone else’s direction or restrictions to feel like I’m enough. (so many baths happened between that moment and now)

$ Let’s get right to the Money $

Feeling and knowing enoughness is integral to wealth and wellbeing. You cannot truly know wealth without knowing what “enoughness” feels like. We have a wealth disparity issue because the ultrawealthy don’t feel like they can be satiated - that they cannot be or have enough.

Even with my years of training, exploring my own relationship to money and countless hours of therapy, Divine Trickster Energy had another golden nugget of truth for me up its sleeve. Here was one area I wasn’t feeling worthy or enough in. I was accepting criticism and defensiveness instead of curiosity and care in my most vulnerable moments.

What a golden gift - and it only took me 20 mins! Now I can go forward in my life knowing that my vulnerability is a gift and can be cherished. Now I know that I am enough in all my relationships from here on out. Now I can grieve what I’m letting go of and make more room for the love I’m letting in. I’m SO EXCITED for this new chapter of my life!!!

Let me be clear here: I’m still going to therapy and I’m on an as-needed basis with my life coach. I’ll do my homework around finding the whole truth and some resolution - but for now, I just worm-holed to a new dimension of love within myself and I have a whole new solar system to explore with their skilled help! WOO!

Your Money Trickster

Right now, there is some not-enoughness in you. It’s keeping you from wealth. I know this because you wouldn’t be following my work if you felt satisfied with your wealth scenario. That not-enoughness is also keeping you from the healthy relationships that can help you build or share your wealth.

Maybe your trickster is similar to mine. Maybe it’s different. Either way, I’m pretty confident I can trick you into recognizing and naming yours within 10 mins.

Get ready for the WORMHOLE!!!

Directions:

1. Keep this page open for reference.

2. Click the button here to take this 3 min quiz. If it takes longer than that, you’re not feeling, you’re thinking. This is a feeling quiz. Go with your gut, heart, spleen or whatever.

3. Ignore your percentages for now.

4. Read through every word of each Money Model and ask your body how it feels about each one.

5. List the Money Models that make your body clam up, get angry, hot, tight, or generally scared or uncomfortable. Note your reactions somewhere for reference later.

6. Take a quick break to reset your nervous system.

7. Look at your list of Icky & Cringey Money Models. Each one of them holds a golden nugget of transformation for you.

8. Practice doing what the sustainable, healthy end of each Money Model would do until you learn to love it. For more specific guidance, you can order my workbook.

9. PROFIT.

How’d that Trickster wormhole treat you? Message me to let me know! I’d love to witness your journey.

A Final Note on Criticism:

Please use your gifts of discernment, judgment, and criticism for ideas and things - not people. You can discern if someone’s behavior is something you’re willing to accept for the sake of your health. You can criticize art to know if you need it in your living room or not. You can use your judgment to understand the value of something like a money coaching session (*wink).

But please, please understand that PEOPLE ARE PRECIOUS and Criticizing them as people is not an act of love for either of you - it’s an act of supremacy, hierarchy, and division - especially if you’re not actively listening to who you’re criticizing.

The person I mentioned in the first section is forever important to me even with this new, hopefully temporary boundary. They are precious. They are important. They matter. All of that is true regardless of any relationship we may or may not have together.

I love them very deeply and always will. I just need a little distance or time so I can love them from a more resourced place within myself for now. I need to take my trickster lesson and apply it before I can think of sharing vulnerability with them again. I’m hoping maybe by then, they’ll meet me with care, curiosity, and tenderness and we can have a whole new experience and way to love each other.

See how this has all been about me and not them?

Your money struggle is about you too, not whatever or whoever else you might want to blame it on.

Yes, there are actual limitations, and I assure you, your internal limitations are what keep yourself from breaking through those glass ceilings, pay grades, and discriminatory tax systems in the first place. If you don’t believe you can break through, you won’t. And if you’re surrounded by people who don’t believe you can, you won’t. Besides, unless you’re a high ranking government official, you can’t change those systems right now directly anyway - so focus on what you CAN change - your relationship to money.

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Candis Fox is a Wealth and Integrity Coach dedicated to making Revolution Delicious, Easy, and Accessible to people, businesses, & industries invested in their own integrity & truth.